Friday, 14 June 2013

Masturbation - Myths and Facts (Info For Teens)

Masturbation. Most people do it — yet so many people worry about doing it! That's because there are a lot of myths out there that masturbation is dirty, dangerous, or something to be embarrassed about doing.
But the truth is, people of all ages masturbate. Guys masturbate, and girls do it, too. Single people and people in relationships do it. Some people masturbate a few times a day, some do it a few times a year, and some don’t do it at all. Here are some common myths and facts about masturbation.

Is masturbation unhealthy?
The myth is that masturbation makes you blind, crazy, or stupid, damages your sex organs, or stunts your growth. This couldn't be further from the truth. Masturbation is not emotionally or physically harmful in any way. In fact, it has a number of physical and mental health benefits — here are just a few:
  • Masturbation releases stress and physical tension. Many people masturbate to relax, and it can help some people fall asleep.
  • Orgasms — whether they're from masturbation or sex with a partner — can act as a natural painkiller. Some women masturbate to relieve menstrual cramps. Research has also shown that orgasms may even prevent endometriosis, a disease of the uterine lining.
  • One study found that frequent ejaculation from masturbating may reduce a man's chances of developing prostate cancer.
Plus, solo sex is the ultimate form of safer sex — there is no risk of pregnancy or infection
Is it okay to masturbate if I’m in a sexual relationship with someone?
The myth is that people in relationships don’t masturbate.  Here's an interesting fact — people who have regular sex partners actually masturbate more often than those who don't. Some people are concerned when they find out their partners masturbate — they wonder, "Why would someone masturbate when they could have sex with me? Does this mean that my partner isn't attracted to me?" But many people — both in relationships and single — masturbate when their partners are unavailable.Some people masturbate as a kind of "dress rehearsal," to learn more about what they find pleasurable. People can learn about their bodies through masturbating, and this can help them communicate better with their partners about what they enjoy sexually.  
Is there such a thing as too much masturbation?
The myth is that too much masturbation will make you blind, crazy, or stupid, damage your sex organs, or stunt your growth.  Some people masturbate every day — or even more than once a day. That's fine. So is there such a thing as "too much" masturbation? According to the experts (the American Psychiatric Association), it's only when masturbation gets in the way of daily activities — like going to school or work, or meeting friends — that it would be considered "too much." And not many people have that problem.

Also, some people worry that masturbating frequently will affect a girl's ability to get pregnant or a guy's ability to produce sperm. It doesn't.
Some people masturbate daily or more than once a day, some people masturbate once in a while, and some people never masturbate
 Do girls masturbating ?
The myth is that girls don’t masturbate.  Some people think that it's OK for guys to masturbate or have other kinds of sex, but that girls shouldn't. Unfortunately, our society is often more comfortable with men expressing their sexuality than with women, so many girls are taught not to masturbate — or not to admit to doing it. But the truth is, girls and women do masturbate, and there's no reason why they shouldn't. In fact, one study showed that women who masturbate have higher self-esteem than those who don't. 

Is there such a thing as too much masturbation?
The myth is that too much masturbation will make you blind, crazy, or stupid, damage your sex organs, or stunt your growth.  Some people masturbate every day — or even more than once a day. That's fine. So is there such a thing as "too much" masturbation? According to the experts (the American Psychiatric Association), it's only when masturbation gets in the way of daily activities — like going to school or work, or meeting friends — that it would be considered "too much." And not many people have that problem.

Also, some people worry that masturbating frequently will affect a girl's ability to get pregnant or a guy's ability to produce sperm. It doesn't.
Some people masturbate daily or more than once a day, some people masturbate once in a while, and some people never masturbate.

Does masturbating make other kinds of sex not feel as good?
The myth is that masturbation ruins how other kinds of sex feel. This is not true. The truth is that masturbation can help other kinds of sex feel better, not worse. It’s about discovering what kinds of touching and sensations work for you, and it's a way to learn to have orgasms. Most people who reach orgasm with a partner have also experienced an orgasm from masturbation.

Do people masturbate together?
The myth is that couples don’t masturbate together —  they always have other kinds of sex. The truth is that many couples enjoy watching each other masturbate. Many like to masturbate themselves to orgasm after other kinds of sex. “Mutual masturbation” is also a great way to have safer sex and to prevent unwanted pregnancy.

Can masturbation cause pregnancy?
It's not possible to get pregnant from masturbating, unless semen is spilled on a woman’s vulva. Pregnancy can happen when a guy's sperm gets in the vagina or on the vulva. In order for a pregnancy to occur, sperm needs to get inside a vagina. When you masturbate alone, that can’t happen.  When a guy masturbates with a woman, he needs to be careful that his semen doesn’t touch her vulva.

How India compares with China in military prowess

How India compares with China in military prowess

General News


By Saheen C Najeeb , XII , B

As two rising Asian powers with high GDP growth and increasing geo-political influence, India and China have been arch rivals in their race to superpowerdom.
We all know about the interest of China over Arunachal Pradesh.We all know what happened in 1962.China won the battle.Now if another war happens over Arunachal Pradesh between these two countries what will be the outcome?.Can we resist the attack of China?.I hope you will get an answer after reading this article.
China’s military expenditure is estimated to be 80 billion US dollars, which put China second only to the USA in global military spending. The actual Chinese military capabilities and budget are shrouded in deep secrecy to prevent foreign countries having an idea of its military might…and perhaps to create the strategic advantage of uncertainty. On the other side, India’s official military expenditure for 2008 is quoted at $30 billion. India however, does not keep a level of secrecy as cloaked as China does, as its democratic government system requires public accountability. By its official 2008 military budget figures, India stands at 10th position in global military spending.
 India’s active military personnel numbered over 13,25,000 while China’s was significantly higher at 2,255,000. In the air defence area, China’s PLA (People’s Liberation Army) Air Force has 9,218 aircrafts of which about 2300 are combat aircrafts, operating from its 489+ air bases. The Indian Air Force has 3382 aircrafts which includes 1335 combat aircraft operating from 334+ land bases and its sole aircraft carrier INS Viraat. The best combat aircrafts in China’s PLAAF are Russian Su-30 MK and indigenously built, 4th generation J-10 fighters. Indian Air Force, on the other hand has French built Dassault Mirage 2000s and Russian Su-30 MKI as the best aircrafts in its combat fleet (no indigenous fighters or aircrafts have been built by India so far). Indian Navy is the world’s eighth largest navy with a fleet of 145 vessels consisting of missile-capable warships, advanced submarines, the latest naval aircrafts and an aircraft carrier in its inventory. It is experienced both in combat and rescue operations during wartime and peace as seen from its wars with Pakistan in 1971, the December 2004 Tsunami, etc. On the other hand, China’s PLA Navy with its 284 fleet is quantitatively larger but primitive in actual experience and training as compared to the Indian Navy. China has no aircraft carriers in its naval fleet at present but is slated to build and induct an aircraft carrier by 2010.
In strategic nuclear defence and delivery systems China’s PLA is miles ahead of India’s nuclear forces. China’s nuclear arsenal which started stockpiling in 1964, contains more than 210 nuclear warheads. The most powerful ones among China’s nuclear arsenal have yields of over 4 megatons. In comparison, India’s strategic nuclear force which started stockpiling after the 1998 Shakti tests, has about 50-70 warheads at present. The most powerful among India’s nuclear warheads has an yield of 0.05 megatons which is minuscule, compared to China. India’s nuclear delivery system consists of bombers, supersonic cruise missiles and medium range ballistics missiles. Agni 2, India’s longest range,deployed ballistic missile is capable of a range of 2500 km, carrying a single nuclear warhead of 1000 kg. In stark contrast, China’s nuclear delivery system is far more advanced than India’s, with multi-warhead MIRV capable ICBMs like DF-5A [12000+ km] and DF-4 [7500+ km]. It also possesses submarine launched SLBMs like JL-1 [4500+ km] and strategic fighter bombers like Su-27 Flanker in its nuclear weapons delivery arsenal.

After Earth 2013 Film

After Earth
2013 Film
After Earth is a 2013 American science fiction adventure drama film directed by M. Night Shyamalan that he co-wrote with Gary Whitta based on an original story idea by Will Smith, about a military father ... Wikipedia
Running time: 100 minutes

Wednesday, 16 January 2013

9 common mistakes women make in bed

I posted an article on the most common mistakes men make in bed. Well guess what, ladies It’s YOUR turn. You didn’t think you were getting off free and clear did you? Sure, is geared towards women but that doesn’t mean we can’t check ourselves every once in a while – especially when it comes to sex. While I’m sure a lot of my sistas are holding in down in the bedroom, there could be a few things we probably need to address. Men often say that it is hard (no pun intended) to have bad sex but ladies, please don’t pat your collective selves on the back. We have work to do! Let’s explore these common female frisky faux pas.

1. Dead Fish

The most common complaint I hear from men about women when it comes to sex is that some of them just lay there. They expect a man to just, in the words of Celie, “climb on top of me and do his bid’ness.” Ladies, please say it isn’t so! Now if this is you, let me be clear: he ain’t coming back if you just roll over and play dead. Unless there is some physical challenge you have that keeps you from moving your hips, then MOVE! If you’re not sure what to do, pretend like you’re dancing, find his rhythm and then match it. Now, if he’s a jack rabbit, that may be hard to do…and he’s probably not concerned if you’re not moving anyway because he’s moving too fast for the both of you. But if he’s got a nice, smooth, sensual flow going, then go with him! Don’t just assume that your pretty face and hot body are enough to keep him interested sexually, because if you’re just lying there, it won’t matter. He’ll never come back for more.

2. Silence

If simply laying there motionless is bad, laying there silently is even worse. Men like to know that they’re pleasing you and their egos can’t handle you lying there without so much as even giving them a grunt or a moan or something. He’ll be thinking, “I wonder if she’d rather be watching TV?” Maybe you are laying there wondering when he’ll be finished, but that’s when it’s really your turn to speak up. If you’re not satisfied sexually, tell him what you like and either show or explain to him how to do it. There is no excuse for any grown A$$ woman in 2013 (or these last days of 2012) to not be getting hers sexually, so if he’s wack in bed, you are partly to blame if you don’t speak up. Believe it or not, most men welcome – and are turned on – by a little guidance and direction. By not giving him any feedback, you’re just allowing him to think he’s doing something, and you’re short changing yourself in the process. It’s not about criticizing him, it’s about telling him what pleases you so that you both have a great experience.

3. No Adventure

Okay, so you move and talk a little bit but missionary is about as far as you’ll go. For some men, that may work just fine, but for others…that simply won’t do. He may love you so much that he’ll tolerate your lack of creativity but if you really want to get things poppin’ in the sack, try a different position, talk dirty to him or have sex somewhere other than the bedroom. Spice it up a bit! I know some of you “good girls” might be thinking “eewww! I can’t/won’t do that” but trust and believe, there is another woman out there who will. Now I’m not suggesting that you force yourself to do something that is totally uncomfortable for you or that makes you feel degraded, but simply open your mind up to new possibilities. Don’t turn your nose up at his fantasies or call other women sluts because they like to get down a little differently than you do. Instead, figure out what boundaries you’re willing to cross and then take notes. Watch an adult video to get some ideas. Whatever you do, don’t allow your sex life to become routine.

4. Mismatched Libidos

While I have yet to meet a man who would turn down sex, that’s not the ONLY thing a man may want from you. If you want to jump your man’s bones and he says he has a headache, don’t take offense, get angry or pout. He still loves you, he just wants to relax. Don’t act like you don’t know what that’s like. Some women make the mistake of thinking that men want sex all the time or that he should always be up for it when you are; that’s not the case. While sexual chemistry is definitely important, it isn’t the beginning and end of a relationship – give the man a night off! It doesn’t mean that he’s cheating or doesn’t desire you anymore unless, of course, his disinterest in sex is sudden and unexplained and he otherwise NEVER turns you down. Use your instincts on this one, but just keep in mind that a man is not like a toy that you can crank up with batteries and be ready to go when you want him to. That would be nice though, wouldn’t it?

5. Body Issues

If you are unhappy with your body and are self conscious about your love handles, pooches or droopy breasts, he will probably feel weird too and that’s not hot. Don’t be one of those women who has sex with the lights out or under the covers so that he can’t see you; own your body and embrace your imperfections. If you can’t do that, then do something about it. Hit the gym, eat right and boost your self esteem so that you don’t carry your body issues into the bedroom with you. Chances are you’re probably not really “hiding” anything anyway so if he already wants to have sex with you, he already knows what you’re working with. How you carry yourself is what makes you attractive, so work what you’ve got with confidence and rock his world!

6. Body Odor/Functions

Okay, I know you all know this already, but it needs to be said anyway. Ladies, keep it clean, shaved, trimmed, polished, whatever you need to do to maintain good hygiene. This may mean different things to different women, because some like it hairy, some like it clean of hair – whatever floats your boat. Just make sure everything is “right” down there before you get busy. I know during certain times of the month things might not be as “fresh” as it they could be so pay attention to your body and be a lady about it. Unless you know he’s into that sort of thing, don’t assume a man wants to have sex when your “Aunt Flo” is in town. That could freak him out and nothing traumatizes a man more than his sheets looking like a crime scene when you’re done. If he’s into that though, just lay down some dark colored towels and keep it moving. Well, that’s what I heard.

7. Teeth

If your man is lucky enough to be blessed with oral pleasure, remember rule number one: NO TEETH. Even if they just “graze” him, that could make for a very unpleasant experience. Unless you have dentures, you can’t take them out, so I realize teeth-to-skin contact might be a hard thing to avoid. It simply may take practice, but just be careful. You’re handling delicate man parts when engaging in 0-ral sex, so treat it like ice cream, not a hot dog. And if you have fangs or braces, take EXTRA care…no scraping allowed.

8. Ignoring the REST of His Body

While it may seem that the only part of a man’s body that needs pleasing is between his legs, men have other erogenous zones as well – and he wants you to pay extra attention to them. Guess what ? Men have nipples too, and they are just as sensitive as ours when it comes to hot spots. So pinch them, kiss them, lick them. Take a trip around his body and explore a little bit. Ask him to show you his favorite spots and then tease him during 4play. Yes, that’s right…I said 4play. It isn’t just for us, it’s for him too. We wouldn’t want a man to just focus on our woman space, so do the same for him. Now if your man is the “get straight to business” type, then by all means, ignore everything I just wrote. But I’m willing to bet he’ll enjoy you wandering around his body a little bit longer before going in. Literally and figuratively.

9. Expecting Monogamy After Sex

For a lot of women, sex is the ultimate form of intimacy, and we expect that if we give a man our bodies, then he will give us his heart. WRONG. Not saying all men are “hit it and quit it” type dudes, but unless you’ve had a conversation about your relationship and expectations, don’t think that sex automatically makes him your man. If you’re trying to use sex to manipulate or “trick” him into catching feelings for you, you’ll be in for a rude awakening. If you’ve already managed to catch feelings for him, you should probably hold off on having sex with him until you know his feelings are mutual. Otherwise your feelings will just grow more intense after you have sex with him and you will be in a very bad place. Be honest with yourself about where your relationship truly stands and make sure you’re having sex for the right reasons. If you have a motive, then check yourself, because it could backfire on you. Sex is just sex, until you have the talk.

9 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Guys, if you’ve managed to have sex with her once, but you now find that she’s MIA after your encounter, chances are you did or said something wrong in the sack and she’s not eager for a repeat. If you get your cues from adult videos or your boys, you might’ve been led astray…and here are 9 things that you might be doing that SOME women hate in bed.

1. No 4-play
4-play begins in your mind, and carries over to her body – her ENTIRE body. It could start with a passionate kiss and if you’re the type of guy who never kisses before, during or after sex, then she may just assume you’re all about yours and she’ll feel neglected. Sex isn’t just about genitalia; it’s about setting the mood, engaging her mind, senses and paying attention to her completely. If you’re just focused on the area between her legs and maybeher breasts, then there’s a 50/50 chance she MIGHT give you another chance; but if you don’t step your 4-play game up, she won’t be calling you back any time soon.

2. Robot Sex
If you move in bed like you’re counting or are hammering at her in a mechanical way, expect to expect to receive a less than excited response. Women (and men) hate boring, predictable, methodical sex that lacks passion, rhythm and excitement. Whether it’s too fast, too slow, if you go on too long or keep stopping, robot sex can leave a woman feeling disconnected – especially if she’s the type who can’t pick up where she left off or needs to build up slowly in order to climax. If you’re a jack rabbit, she won’t want more of that. She’ll just use her toy Rabbit until someone better comes along.

3. Poor Grooming
Nothing is more of a turnoff than a man who has poor hygiene, especially when it comes to sex. Now, it’ll probably be hard to get her to sleep with you at all if you smell funny, but if by some chance she does give you a chance and you’re overly hairy, have dirty fingernails and your breath stinks, don’t expect her to want to roll around with you in the sheets ever again. I’m not saying you have to totally “manscape” – because some women like a scruffy dude – but at least take a shower and trim your nails, especially if you’re going to be using your fingers. It’s only right.

4. Rough or Painful Sex
Speaking of fingers, most women prefer gentle strokes, not moves that indicate you’re digging for gold. And if your nails aren’t trimmed…OUCH!! Then there’s the guy who likes to twiddle your nipples like he’s changing the dial on a radio, or the guy who bites them too hard. Women have delicate parts that should be handled with care, and while there’s nothing wrong with a few “love bites” here and there, pay attention to her to see if she’s making pleasurable faces or if she’s grimacing in pain. Some women are into pain and if she’s one of them, then you have no worries. But if you’re not sure and it’s your first time getting busy, err on the side of being gentle until she screams to you “pull my hair!” Then you can go for it!

5. Too Quiet…or Too Loud
Most men like it when women are vocal during sex and women like to know that he’s enjoying it too. So if you’re the type of guy who is shy, timid or simply quiet, then she may wonder if she’s pleasing you. Sometimes, the sound of heavy breathing is enough for some women but for others, they like to be hear some talking. If you’re at a loss for words, you can at least say her name a few times so that she knows you’re present.
On the flip-side of that, if you never shut up during sex, you may be distracting her from savoring the moment. I’m talking about the guy who asks a million questions during sex: “How’s this?” “Do you like that?” “Am I doing it right?”  Shut up! You should be able to tell if she’s enjoying sex by the way her body responds, not simply by her telling you. There’s nothing wrong with making sure you’re not hurting her or that you’re doing something right, but there comes a time when you must simply keep your mouth shut and handle your business. And don’t bark orders either – she’s just feel like she’s having sex with a drill sergeant, and that’s wack. If you find that you’re talking more and sexing less, then put a muzzle on it and let her guide you.

6. Dirty Talk
While we’re on the subject of talking during sex, not all women like to be talked to like dirty, little sluts. Sure, it may seem cool on adult videos, but if you don’t know if she’s into that or not, then don’t go there until you both are a little more comfortable with each other. Some women totally love to be talked to in a dirty manner, but other women may feel disrespected because it sounds vulgar to them. There’s nothing wrong with dirty talk, but make sure it’s something you’re sure she’ll respond to in a positive manner before you go talking crazy out your mouth.

7. Forcing 0-ral Sex
I’ll just keep this simple – don’t grab the back of her head and “help” her down to your nether regions. I’m serious – do not play yourself like that. If she’s going to do it, she’ll do it. She doesn’t need your help, any clues or smoke signals. If you appear desperate for her to do it, then she probably won’t do it at all…ever. Nudging just makes you look thirsty.

8. Climaxing Too Soon…or Not Soon Enough
I know some men can’t help this, but if you know you’re a 2-minute brother, then you might need to seek out ways to fix that before you jump into bed with a woman for the first time. For some women, it’s not a total deal breaker, especially if you’re good at performing other things that may satisfy her first before you jump the gun. But make sure you’ve honed ALL of your skills if you simply can’t help “getting there” prematurely. [Note: Yes, we know that the first go 'round might result in a "quick release" but make sure you come with the real for round two.]
At the same time, some women aren’t built for marathon sex either. Yes, we may appreciate the extra time since some women take longer than others to climax. But after about 45 minutes to an hour, make sure you haven’t started a small brush fire down there from all the extended friction. It’s all about not being a selfish lover.

9. Not Disposing the Condom
It’s not her job to get rid of the condom, it’s yours. It’s just icky if you don’t dispose of it right and proper way. Don’t leave it leaking on the nightstand or on the floor, that’s just gross, no matter whose house it is. Also, don’t just leave it on expecting her to take it off and throw it away. Be neat and considerate – otherwise you’re just rude and disgusting.

Should Committed Men Be Able To Find Other Women Attractive?

To Like Or Not To Like: Should Committed Men Be Able To Find Other Women Attractive?

Accept that other women are still attractive. This theme came up a few times. You’re beautiful and he loves you, BUT there are other women in the world he might, from time to time, find attractive. A quote from one friend sums it up best, “space is #1, a good wife isn’t smothering, she’s confident enough to let her man hit the streets and follow Draya on Instagram. 
Let’s be clear, these men weren’t advocating for letting your husband blatantly disrespect you by actively pursuing other women on social media or beyond. Still, you should be confident and trustworthy enough to know that just because he “LIKES” a picture on Facebook/Instagram or RTs some cute woman on Twitter, doesn’t mean he’s secretly plotting to run off with that woman the second you turn your back.

Facebook Introduces Graph Search

Facebook Introduces Graph Search, and Big News From 9 Other Social Sites

January 15th, 2013 - By Kimberly Maul

Today, Facebook hosted a press event announcing Graph Search, an internal feature that will help Facebook users find out more detailed information about their friends.
Graph Search is different than more traditional web search because it is designed to answer a question, said Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg during the announcement, not just links to answers. Users can search for people, photos, places, and interests to determine things such as “my college friends living in San Francisco” or “nearby friends who like Game of Thrones” for a viewing party, for example. Results are also ranked by relevance to the user, with close friends showing up as top results.
The search function will allow users to more easily dig through all the friends, data, and content that has been shared with them via Facebook, and it will be privacy aware, only permitting searchers to see what their friends have posted or what is made public by other users.
“When Facebook first launched, the main way most people used the site was to browse around, learn about people and make new connections,” the company said in a press release about the feature. “Graph Search takes us back to our roots and allows people to use the graph to make new connections.”
During the announcement, Zuckerberg, Tom Stocky and Lars Rasmussen, who developed the feature, demonstrated how to use Graph Search for dating, recruiting, and commercial uses, with restaurants as an example. Because Graph Search can bring to light photos of users that had previously been hidden from a user’s Timeline, Facebook is also offering tools and resources to help users understand the privacy implications.
A search function was one of the rumors floating around after Facebook announced its event last week. The media predicts Facebook will work to compete with Google in helping individuals find information and answer questions.
This is the latest news to come out of the social networking site and yet one more thing to keep track of in the constantly-changing social media landscape. Here is a handy guide, keeping you up-to-date with your favorite (and soon-to-be-favorite?) social media sites.